Last year, I got rejected 43 times by literary magazines, residencies, and fellowships-my best record since I started shooting for getting 100 rejections per year. It's harder than it sounds, but also more gratifying.
In late 2011, a writer friend was sharing her experiences of having months of uninterrupted writing time at her residencies at the Millay Colony, Ragdale, and Yaddo. I was staggered by her impressive rates of acceptance. You probably have one of those friends, too - you know the one I'm talking about, that friend who is a beautiful writer, but who also seems to win everything? I could barely believe that she had the balls to apply to-let alone, get accepted to-several residencies, a prestigious fellowship, and publications in journals I had actually heard of.